I have heard of Dominants insisting that their submissives speak in the
third person and i have always thought it silly but i would never
condemn anyone for doing it. It was only as i was using this speech
pattern (or trying to) that i realized how binding it was. The response
to an order wasn't so bad, but enclosing every sentence with Sir was
very difficult and restrictive. What i realized was that while using
everyday speech i have a habit of forming my next comment or answer as
the other person speaks so as to respond as soon as they finish. Because
i had to concentrate on HOW i would answer it forced me to wait and
therefore i concentrated on their words. It turned out to be an
extremely effective behaviour modification device. It forced me to wait.
It made me feel like a supplicant being forced to wait until the
Dominant had completely finished their sentence.
The most
difficult of all, were the questions that required an explanation as
part of the answer. Try answering "why cant you kneel for very long?"
with "Sir, i had knee surgery five years ago sir." A persons impulse is
to just to respond to the question as efficiently as possible and a
lifetimes habit is hard to shake. Much more difficult to do than you may
think. Try it some time.
I never would have believed that simple language could be so binding and controlling but believe me it is.
An effective lesson learned
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