BDSM Glossary T-X

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Tam­pon train­ing - Rec­tal inser­tion of tam­pons by male sub­mis­sives to empathize with the female men­strual cycle.

Tantric Yoga, Vajrayana Bud­dhism - Indian means for achiev­ing a tran­scen­dent spir­i­tual state that incor­po­rates sex­ual and med­i­ta­tive tech­niques. There are many paths to enlight­en­ment and erotic explo­ration is one.

Tawes. taws - Thick rigid leather with a length­wise slit (or slits) in it used in a paddle-like fashion.

Thud - A blow that is felt at a deeper level than sting, Thud is usu­ally eas­ier to tol­er­ate, but may actu­ally be more dam­ag­ing as it can cause deeper bruising.

Tit tor­ture - Erotic play involv­ing the breasts.

Tol­ley­boy - A lock­ing chastity belt made in Eng­land of rubber-lined stain­less steel.

Top - One who takes the active role in phys­i­cal scene, but not nec­es­sar­ily emotional/mental control.

Top’s dis­ease - A state of self-delusion wherein the top believes his own fan­tasy of dom­i­nant superiority.

Top­ping from the bot­tom - Main­tain­ing the fic­tion that the top is in charge, where the real con­trol and direc­tion of a scene rests with the bot­tom. [see also, Bot­tom­ing from the top]

Top-space - A state of erot­i­cally altered con­scious­ness (EAC) achieved dur­ing a scene by the dom­i­nant or top. It is char­ac­ter­ized by feel­ings of intense focus, clar­ity of thought, a sense of extreme power or high energy, and/or exhil­a­ra­tion. Feel­ings of dis­tance and objec­tiv­ity, as if one where com­mand­ing from a moun­tain­top, may para­dox­i­cally accom­pany feel­ings of con­nec­tion to the sub­mis­sive, as if there were a psy­chic link. A dis­pas­sion­ate per­spec­tive may com­bine with erotic ardor. Top space may be fol­lowed by either a con­tin­ued sense of well-being or by feel­ings of fatigue, depres­sion, or lethargy. [see Post-scene plunge]

Tor­ture - Actions that would be painful out­side of their erotic con­text used to enhance sex­ual plea­sure for a bottom.

Total con­ver­sion or the “ouch­less ouch” - Whips strokes or cor­po­ral stim­uli deliv­ered dur­ing an erotic scene that begins light and rises grad­u­ally. The level of sex­ual arousal is always kept at a high enough level so that the blows are never expe­ri­enced sub­jec­tively as pain.

Train­ing - Any of many dis­ci­plines wherein the Dom and sub act together to mod­ify the sub’s behav­ior, con­di­tion, and/or atti­tude. Includes, but is not restricted to; pony train­ing, anal train­ing, posi­tion train­ing, voice com­mand response, and so on.

TS, Trans­sex­ual - A per­son who born in a phys­i­cal gen­der that does not match his or her per­sonal psy­chol­ogy. These peo­ple are com­monly going through “gen­der reas­sign­ment” by means of coun­sel­ing, hor­mone treat­ments, and surgery to cor­rect their sit­u­a­tion. A TS is called a “pre-op” before sur­gi­cal mod­i­fi­ca­tion and a “post-op” afterwards.

TV, Trans­ves­tite - A man or woman dress­ing in the cloth­ing of the oppo­site gender.

True Master/True sub­mis­sive - A term of self-description usu­ally used by incom­pe­tent new­com­ers or lost-in-fantasy oth­ers to entice a peo­ple to play with them. The “True Sub­mis­sive” (or more typ­i­cally “Tue slave”) is one who buys into the non­sense that the “Tue Mas­ter” is sell­ing. “True sado­masochism” is also used to allude to a non-existent, “gen­uine” stan­dard of SM excellence.

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Vam­pire glove - Vam­pire gloves are most often thin leather dri­ving gloves that have sharp, metal tines or tacks lin­ing the palms. The tines are typ­i­cally snap, or rhine­stone set­tings that are poked through the leather from the inside and glued in place, though some very mean gloves uti­lize thumb or car­pet tacks. Fur mitts can be embell­ished with tines in the same man­ner, yield­ing tex­tures from very nice to yowee!

Vanilla - Describes things, activ­i­ties and peo­ple who are not part of the SM scene, for exam­ple; “We had vanilla sex last night,” mean­ing, “We had sex with­out includ­ing any SM scene elements.”

Ver­bal humiliation/abuse - The use of sex­ual epi­thets and sim­i­lar ver­bal­iza­tions to excite or hum­ble one’s part­ner. Ver­bal humil­i­a­tion is good when it is used to sup­port the value of the sub­mis­sive. It becomes abuse when it is used to tear down the self-esteem of the sub. The line between the two is not always clear and may vary within one person’s psy­che depend­ing upon mood. Use with cau­tion and sensitivity.

Vir­gin rap­ture - Period of time (often years long) wherein new­com­ers are so over­whelmed by SM that they think the world revolves around it and can never imag­ine return­ing to any other form of sex­u­al­ity. When the infat­u­a­tion ends feel­ings of dis­ap­point­ment and loss are com­mon. It may be reas­sur­ing to know that this is a nor­mal process as SM is inte­grated into a person’s sexuality.

Vinyl - A mate­r­ial used for fetish fash­ions. [see PVC]

Vio­let wand - A sta­tic elec­tric­ity gen­er­a­tor, fre­quently with mul­ti­ple glass attach­ments includ­ing: globes, thin tubes, fork-shaped tubes, etc., used to send vir­tu­ally harm­less, violet-colored sta­tic “light­ning” to a submissive’s skin.

Visu­al­iza­tion - The use of story-telling and ver­bal fan­tasy shar­ing to achieve a mood or desired mind set prior to, or dur­ing a scene.

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Water sports - Sex­ual play involv­ing urine or ene­mas. [see Golden Show­ers and Enema]

Weights _ Lead fish­ing weights or other weights hung from clamps that are attached to the body to increase tor­ment. [see Clamps, Clamping]

Whip - A whip is an object used to beat on a sub­mis­sive. Many peo­ple in the scene use the term whip to include canes, crops, pad­dles, slap­pers, etc., as well as sin­gle– and multiple-lash whips.

Whip­ping - 1) The act of beat­ing a sub­mis­sive or bot­tom. 2) Fin­ish­ing a rope-end to pre­vent fray­ing by wrap­ping it with thread or string.

White light­ning - A com­mon nick­name for a white fiber glass or resin rod often with a leather or rub­ber han­dle that is used as a cane. Being much more dense than rat­tan, it can inflict deeper dam­age and the feel is described as “cut­ting.” [see Cane]

Wor­ship - 1) To lav­ish atten­tions upon a part of the body, usu­ally feet, pussy or cock. 2) A role play­ing atti­tude toward a dom­i­nant, typ­i­cally of a male sub toward his goddess/mistress.

Wrap­ping - Allow­ing the tips of a whip or cane to strike parts of the body other than the intended tar­get. For exam­ple, aim­ing for the fanny and hit­ting it, but the tips of the whip wrap around the fanny and strike the hip. Bruis­ing on the hips is often a sign of a care­less or incom­pe­tent top who is fre­quently unaware of the dam­age that is occurring.

Wrist cuffs - Restraints designed to fit the wrists. [see Cuff, Cuffing]

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X-frame - A sta­tion­ary bondage frame in the shape of an “X”, usu­ally mounted in a hor­i­zon­tal posi­tion. [see St. Andrew’s cross]

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